financial burden, despite her grandparents helping out with the costs. Her relationship with her sister was also strained—Mary openly hated her and bullied her throughout their childhood, while their parents never intervened. When OP graduated high school, she made the decision to leave home and attend college in another state, with the help of her grandparents, to escape the toxic environment. This turned out to be the best decision she made, as it was there she met her now-husband, Greg, who treated her with love and respect.
After they graduated, OP and Greg married, but once again, her parents refused to support the wedding, claiming they had already spent too much on Mary’s wedding the year before. In fact, they didn’t even attend OP’s wedding, leaving her and Greg to handle everything themselves, with financial assistance from her grandparents. Afterward, OP and Greg settled in the city where they graduated, and she had minimal contact with her parents, staying in touch mostly with her grandparents.
The couple eventually had a son, but the pregnancy was high-risk. Doctors even suggested she terminate the pregnancy due to the potential complications, but fortunately, both mother and son survived. The experience took a toll on OP’s health, and doctors advised her not to have more children. She and Greg agreed not to try again.
About a month ago, OP and her family moved back to her hometown to be closer to her ailing grandfather. Upon returning, she noticed a shift in how her mother and sister treated her. Her mother, who had never shown much affection, suddenly began expressing pride in her, and her sister joined in with similar gestures. OP began to feel uneasy, sensing something was off.
Two weeks later, OP was invited to a family dinner at her parents’ house. During the meal, her sister handed her a card, claiming it was a gift. OP opened it, hoping for an apology, but instead, she found a letter from Mary stating that she had discovered she was infertile and was congratulating OP on becoming her surrogate.
OP was shocked and immediately told Mary she could not be her surrogate, explaining the risks to her health after her previous pregnancy. Mary burst into tears, and their parents began yelling at OP, accusing her of being selfish for not helping her sister. When OP reiterated that doctors advised against her having more children, her parents responded, “For family, you take risks.”
Stunned by the response, OP grabbed her husband and stormed out of the house. In her Reddit post, she expressed feeling guilty but unsure if she was wrong for not agreeing to be her sister’s surrogate, given the risks to her health.
Reddit users quickly supported OP, reassuring her that she wasn’t wrong for refusing to risk her life. Many pointed out that her family was taking advantage of her and suggested that she, her husband, and their child move away for her well-being. One commenter emphasized that OP should not feel guilty about standing up for herself and rejecting the idea that her life was disposable.